Follow the magic of your soul plan
I know change isn't necessarily the life event that we greet with jubilation and tackle with fervour. Sometimes we wish it was just really easy. That there is simply nothing to change and everything is beautiful and peaceful.
But the soul has a plan... yes, even if this is often denied in the spiritual scene. The soul incarnates in a body because it wants to experience itself and for every life it brings with it special potential and abilities, a special idea of what it wants to experience.
And so a constant adjustment takes place (consciously or unconsciously .. depending on where we are in our soul development). The soul compares the image of its experiences in reality with its desired experiences. If everything agrees, we feel good, we feel at peace, at peace with ourselves and in the flow of our lives.
From here the soul often continues to draw in order to find out how great its creative power is, what positive experiences are still possible.
If the image that the soul carries inside does not match the reality outside, the process of change is initiated. By the way, changes don't always have to be as chaotic and dramatic as they often are if we were to act more from the soul level than from the unconscious ego level. But we can work on that to evolve into soul consciousness.
I am now taking you on a little journey through the process of change
- Compare and notice that something is wrong
The first step in the change process is that we perceive in the soul reconciliation process that something is wrong in our lives. Certainly we don't call it the soul reconciliation process in our everyday lives, but we don't think and/or feel good. Do not feel comfortable in one area of our lives.
Let's take a partnership relationship as an example. Each of us has a different idea of what a fulfilling partnership should look like for us. And when I say imagination, I don't mean our ego ideas and conditioning of how a partnership should be lived. We have a soul desire, a soul idea of how we would like to experience partnership.
We move into a partnership and the matching process begins. If our experiences in the partnership agree with what the soul would like to experience fulfilled, then we are fine. Everything is harmonious and in flux.
However, if the reality or the experiences that we have in our partnership do not match our soul's desire, the alarm signals start to shine. And the alarm signals are our feelings (and don't forget: there are people who think their feelings - so you can also use your thoughts as an alarm signal here).
We don't feel well, love doesn't really flow, we doubt, we ponder. Our whole system isn't running smoothly.
This is no drama. That's great. Because your soul is communicating with you here and telling you, "Hey, there is something bigger, more beautiful, that we wanted to experience. As it is now, it is not yet fulfilling enough.”
- Talking things out nicely
Then a very subtle move of the soul and ego comes into play. We begin, as in our example, to "dress up" the relationship. These are the BUT phrases we use. "The sex is bad, BUT going out together is always a lot of fun." "Somehow I have the feeling he doesn't love me anymore, BUT we used to be so in love." Etc.
Talking things out nicely is a tightrope walk. On the one hand, it's great because it reminds us what's good in a relationship (or at work, in friendship, in family, etc.). We keep the focus on the light. On the other hand, if we only look at this one side of our relationship, it is detrimental.
It is important that we look at both sides of the coin when we talk nice. That we value the good and focus on what frustrates us in our lives and lead us to change so that it also feels good.
We can experience fulfillment on both sides. Yes, they are allowed. Why not have fun with our partner when we are doing something and yes having fun in our sexuality too. We are often too quick to either one or the other. But that's exactly where the change starts, that we gradually bring all areas to fulfillment in order to lead a life in the flow of our soul.
So: Talking nicely is not bad per se. It can also help us to master difficult times in our lives, to recognize what is good and that it is worth sticking with it.
If we can no longer see anything beautiful in something (yes, even in a partnership, in our job, in our friendship), then we are often invited to move on. To reorient ourselves, to reach for the stars, which our soul would like to experience fulfilled in this life.
- make yourself bad
In addition to talking nice, making yourself bad often happens at the same time. "No wonder we have such bad sex, I just can't do it." "No wonder my kids dance on my nose, I'm just a bad mother."
Of course, belittling oneself is not now the practice we should be doing all the time. BUT - yes, I actually have a but. There is a real soul treasure hidden in “doing yourself bad”: the knowledge that there is a version within you that is better than the version you are living right now.
I know it's very popular in the spiritual scene to be quick to pigeonhole, "I'm okay the way I am!" and put yourself or anyone else who's feeling bad about themselves in there. The problem: if you think badly about yourself, then thousands of others can tell you the opposite, your own feeling remains and your own feeling is also what counts.
I'll give you an example of this: some time ago, a woman in a group posted that she felt like a bad mother right now. She took her children to the doctor. While sitting in the waiting room, the children tore the whole room apart, romping on the chairs, throwing the toys around, shredding the newspapers, etc.
The people waiting started to complain, the nurse asked them several times to please take care of their children. It went so far that she had to leave the practice with her children without having seen the doctor because the children's behavior was intolerable. Now she felt like a bad mother. There were over 100 comments under this post and everyone had the same tenor: "She's not a bad mother and everything was okay the way it would have gone."
It's not about whether it was okay in the waiting room or not. It's about: if after a situation like that you feel like you were a bad mother, then you were a bad mother. In the sense that you feel that you have a mother quality that could have been better.
This is really important to realize. The situation went the way it did. This cannot be changed afterwards. But we can take that feeling that it could have been done better to really delve deeper into good mothering quality, to do better next time so we don't feel bad about it afterwards. Simply because we were the current best version of ourselves.
If you didn't have a core that could be better, you wouldn't belittle yourself. Don't beat yourself up. Then you would be satisfied with yourself and your life situations.
I know that might not be a popular view now, especially on the spiritual scene. We then like to blame our parents for our bad behavior. Because they always told us how bad we are. That we can't do anything, that we are incapable. It may be that it used to be like that. But that rarely has anything to do with the now.
are you making yourself bad Inside you is a version that could be better. And self-deprecation invites us to bring our greater being more and more into our lives. It is important that we take the negative thoughts about us and start looking for what we can lead to change for ourselves and not get stuck in bad thinking.
You feel you are a bad mother, then you are invited to search for what kind of a good mother you would like to be and what steps you would like to take to get there. You feel that you are not a good partner, then set out to become a better partner. This really works in every aspect of our being. Or you learn to accept yourself as you are. Both are change processes that can also go hand in hand.
On the one hand I'm learning to love myself as I am and on the other hand I'm embarking on a journey to my bigger self
- question yourself
In order to find our greater self or to feel what our soul's plan is, we are invited to constantly question ourselves and our current life. Am I who I want to be? Is my life the way I want to experience it? These are essential questions in the soul creation process.
I know that a laissez-faire attitude is very popular, especially in the spiritual realm. I'm just the way I am. And my life is just the way it is. Not being able to pay my bills, that's the way it is. That I don't live my abilities, that's the way it is. Yes, it can be like that. You live on a planet of free will.
You can always choose. But if you carry feelings like worries, fears, doubts, frustration, anger, tiredness, etc., then you can also ask yourself: Do I want to experience life like this? Do I want to fill my lifetime with these emotions? Or do I go about my life. Do I consciously go into change and transform myself and thereby my life towards feelings that I want to feel: like joy, love, freedom, security (or whatever you would like to feel and experience).
If I don't want to see a world full of rubbish anymore, then I'll start producing less rubbish, picking up rubbish when I see it lying around somewhere.
If I no longer want to be part of the big mass animal suffering machine, then I start to question myself and my diet, to shop more consciously, to look more consciously.
If I want to have a different relationship with my children than I have with my parents, then I start questioning myself about how I can be a good mother/father, to find out what that actually means to me.
That works in every area of life. And do not forget that everything is a development process, a change process, which should have its time. We don't have to be the perfect vegan tomorrow, the best mom ever the day after tomorrow, and we don't have to have saved the world by next week. We are allowed to change our being step by step so that we experience a world that we wanted to experience. But the important thing is to figure out who I want to be. What footprint do I want to leave behind?
- Bring a breath of fresh air into the matter
How and what can I change? As I question myself, as I find more and more of who I want to be and what expression I want to give to the world, I am invited to change my ways. So, to bring a breath of fresh air into my life.
If I decide to live vegan, then I embark on a journey into the exciting world of veganism (I love this journey, even after many years). If I want to do more for the environment, then I start to learn how to avoid waste, maybe gradually build up a zero waste household (I'm working on it, but I'm also doing it step by step).
If I want to have a more fulfilling sexuality, then I start to deal with myself and my sexual needs, try myself out, read books, have experiences, talk to my partner so that I can get there to what I want want to know.
If I want to bring light into the world, then I start to find out where I am drawn to. Maybe I want to learn channeling, maybe card reading, maybe energy treatments. So much is possible. The world is full of opportunities, we just have to go and grab it. Step by step. If we stay where we are, nothing will change.
If we act like we always do, nothing will change. If we act, think, speak as we always do, the result will always be the same. We can bring a breath of fresh air into our lives. We are part of the great creative energy, so please: Let's create. Believe in yourself, follow the impulse to dig up your better, bigger self and let it shine into the world.
- 6 . Change until you feel good
The soul has a plan. We change and change ourselves and our environment until it feels right. Until we feel peaceful and settled. As long as this is not the case, as long as you are not at peace, in the flow of your life and full of love, there is more to discover.
Until then, your plan is even bigger than you have been living it up to now. In the meantime, even greater gifts from your soul await you. And yes, that's great. This is life. As the saying goes: the journey is the goal. There is always more soul self to discover, grasp and bring into the world. Change can be fun, can be great. You are allowed to be great. You can strive for a fulfilling life.
And yes, you can also choose to stay on the back burner. As long as you feel comfortable on cloud 4, there is no reason to move on. But if you are only satisfied with cloud 4, talk it nice to yourself and make yourself know: you don't deserve anything better, then something wonderful is waiting for you, which invites you to embark on the journey of soul discovery, maybe all the way up on cloud nine. Who knows
When we all start bringing our soul light into the world, it becomes a bright place. I believe in you. Love your Jennifer
And yes, if you feel like working on yourself and the development of your soul potential, then welcome to the urvertrauen-akadmie.
Love, your Jennifer