Why your wishes don't come true
Obstacles you can fail at
Just don't let anyone tell you that desires are unspiritual and an expression of unconsciousness. I'll tell you an open secret now: Desires are the future creative impulses of your soul. In your wishes you can see where the next change in your life can go.
It doesn't matter whether you want a house by the sea, a great trip to Asia, or finally an account balance that is in the black. Your soul wants to experience these states. She wants to know how it feels to own such a house, how it feels to feel the energy of Asia, how it feels to have no money worries.
Your soul is in the constant process of creation and experience. Desires are therefore conscious creation processes that the soul longs for. And against which your not yet fully awakened mind is working, often unconsciously and very subtly.
How this works, where we stand in the way of fulfilling our desires and prevent us from experiencing them in reality, I would like to look at with you in this article.
Welcome to the realm of the soul, the sleeping mind and your wonderful desires.
#1 hurdle - lack of self-awareness
Now, when most people think of self-awareness, they probably think of people who go through the world with the attitude “Oops, here I come, what's the price of the world!” – that's not what I mean by soul-self-awareness.
Soul self-awareness can be looked at in many ways, but for now we'll stick with desires. There are a lot of people who don't even know who they are right now and who they actually want to be. They only feel that they are frustrated with life, annoyed, drained, exhausted, deeply tired, etc. And always the outside is to blame for this condition: the partner who doesn't love you enough. The boss who creates such a terrible working atmosphere. The stupid system we live in that ensures you never have enough money.
Instead of really staying with yourself, the buck is generously distributed to the outside world. Yes, I know, self-awareness can sometimes be pretty hard, but I can tell you: your wishes will never come true if you wait for the outside to change, for the people around you to bring you fulfillment . That will not happen.
The fulfillment of your wishes always starts with you. You can compare it a little with shouting to heaven, "Why the fuck don't I ever win the lottery" - and heaven shouting back, "Because you, damn it, didn't buy a ticket!" – this is lack of self-awareness. No ticket, no win.
#1 Soul Impulse: Take a moment for yourself. Feel into it and find answers to the following questions:
- Who are you now?
- Who do you want to be in the future?
# 2 hurdle - lack of self-worth - not reaching for the stars
For many wonderful wishes and experiences that your soul would like to have, we often lack enough self-worth. Attention: with self-worth I don't mean that I'm worth spending thousands of euros on something. That's not what it means. By self-worth I mean that many people have set up their lives in golden cages that are far too small, and fold their wish impulses as small as possible so that it still fits in or push them away, because otherwise the cage would explode, simply, Because they don't see that they're worthy of reaching for the stars. That they are worth breaking the cage and living unconventionally. These people often have "low flame desires" behind which their real needs are hidden.
I want to give you an example from my children's school. I was there the other day and we talked to the children (14 years!!! Mind you) about their career aspirations. 26 kids and none of the kids reached for the stars. Because honestly and with all love, which child really wants to be "administrative clerk in the higher service" or "tax clerk", "auditor" etc. at the age of 14. Where were the astronauts, the winners of the Nobel Peace Prize, the bestselling authors, the supermodels , the inventors... - we set ourselves up on cloud 4, even at this age (often because we already got to know it that way from our parents) and they minimize our value to "functioning in the system".
Should an unusual soul wish come around the corner, such as “emigrate”, “become a globetrotter”, “become a millionaire”, “be a graffiti artist”, our programmed mind comes immediately and croaks in between: “It will be like this Why nothing!”, “Why should you get the place to Mars?”, “Why should you make a million?” – simply because you are worth it if you really want it.
In our wishes we are allowed to spin. And not in the sense of "being crazy", but like a weaver on a loom: in our dreams we weave our wishes, our longings into a wonderful fabric, which your soul can then align with, in which your soul can wrap itself, for a fulfilling life.
But often we weave with gray yarn because it is given to us, by our parents, teachers, partners, friends, etc. Simply because they also spin with gray yarn and not because they are evil or don't begrudge you it. They only know gray yarn while your soul longs for colors. After wonderful, colorful, iridescent colors to weave a rainbow. And you already know you're going to love wrapping yourself in this fabric.
A lack of self-esteem keeps your wishes small, or gives you wishes that you are not really passionate about and which therefore do not really come true, simply because we do not have enough energy to implement lukewarm wishes. What for?
#2 Soul Impulse: Look at your current life
- are you living your life Or do you live your life according to the ideas of others?
- What belief from your childhood keeps you small?
- Start Spinning: What Are Your Big Dreams And Wishes?
#3 hurdle - lack of self-awareness - getting in your own way
There we have our wonderful, great wish: maybe run an animal rescue station in the Canary Islands, open a wellness oasis in your own home, be a travel blogger, write cookbooks, earn a million, live a happy relationship now, etc.
Well, and instead of celebrating the birth of this beautiful weave - our minds get in front of it and often start firing right away as we ourselves think about our desire, talk about our desire and how we act to bring that desire into to bring fulfillment. Namely like: bad, keeping it small, "it would be so nice, but it won't work anyway", "it's just a dream", "why should something good like that happen to me?" etc.
By the way others talk about their desires, you can already tell if they are on the way to fulfillment or just rushing in big strides in the opposite direction. Even if a "but" occurs in your thoughts or words, you know immediately where you stand. "I'm going to work as a shaman now, but actually I don't have the money for it... but where are the clients supposed to come from.... but there are already so many other shamans out there…..”
"I'm writing my book now, but where am I going to get a publisher?" "I want a happy relationship now, but I'm way too fat, too ugly, too small, not lovable enough"-
Zack... the desire is brought to the street and with our words, thoughts and actions we immediately bring ourselves to the junction that leads full can to the wall. We really like to get in our own way with our thoughts and the resulting actions.
The result then often confirms our thoughts. After 100 rejections from publishers, we can say: "I knew right away that I couldn't find a publisher!" If nobody comes to your practice: "I knew that there were already so many shamans out there!" etc .- and actually there is a huge potential here: namely the realization that you are actually the creator of your reality and you have made your wishes come true, but unfortunately those born from a lack of self-awareness.
#3 Soul Tip: Guard your desire or desires like a tender newborn baby, and constantly remind yourself that this baby is nourished by your affection, by your thoughts, by your words, and by your actions. The more you are mindful, appreciative and loving, the more this baby will thrive and grow. But the worse you think about that "desired" baby, the more it will atrophy, become exhausting, annoying, and eventually die.
- Observe your thoughts, listen to yourself when you talk about your dreams and desires - see through your actions, what are you doing to make your dream come true in a way that makes you feel good and where are you thinking, speaking and perhaps acting self-destructive?
#4 hurdle - lack of self-control
I have one more for you in this first part about the 13 hurdles that can derail our desires. It's about self-mastery.
Self mastery brings together many aspects in this soul development field. But at the end of the day, in short, it's about you being the ruler of your life and what happens in it. You control it yourself and that also means: you are responsible for how you are doing and what you experience, not your husband, not your children, not your best friend, not your boss or your colleagues. You are responsible.
You can't repeat it often enough and I usually reap: "Yes, I know that!", but then say in the same breath: "But if my husband were different... my children wouldn't be like that.... and my boss sometimes... and my best friend could also..." - hey presto, the others are responsible for your life. This often happens subconsciously and automatically. And let's be honest, it would be so much more convenient and easier if our partners fulfilled our wishes and we just lay on the couch as a muse. Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way... unless you want to be a muse lying on the couch. *grin*
If I want to eat chocolates and wait for someone else to bring them with me, I may wait forever. And while I'm waiting, I'm getting annoyed with my partner, my kids, my friends, because they all don't bring me chocolates the hell. Then I start to nag, maybe develop the feeling that everyone here doesn't love me at all and that I always do something for everyone, but nobody for me.... Well, this might sound familiar (feel free to substitute chocolates for something more appropriate for you).
Well, you want chocolates (or a bouquet of flowers)? With the power of self-mastery, i.e. you are the master of what happens in your life, you will put this item on your shopping list and next time you go shopping you will choose the chocolates you would like to have. Or you jump straight into the car, on your bike or walk to the nearest supermarket or to the chocolate dealer you trust and spoil yourself because you are worth it, because you take care of yourself and your needs.
Do you recognize the difference: I either wait for someone from outside to come up with the idea of implementing my wishes or I set myself in motion to be able to experience my life fulfilled. The big difference, with variant two, you become the ruler of your life, take responsibility and make yourself free and even better: you also give freedom back to the people around you, because there are no longer unmet needs that do not swell here be satisfied, no expectations that may not be met. Then we can meet freely. This brings an incredible amount of relaxation to all your relationships.
So: don't expect that others can guess your needs, read your most secret desires in your mind and don't expect them to fulfill them if they know them. You are the ruler of your life, it is your responsibility to make your wishes come true, with your experience, with your skills, with your knowledge, with your abilities. You can, and if you can't, you can learn.
#4 Soul Tip: A few more soul questions for you to finish
- Who have you expected so far to make your wishes come true - of whom in your life do you place expectations and demands? What do these look like – where do you want others to be the way you would like them to be? How are these claims presented? (yes, also with your children – lovingly try to be honest with yourself)
- Which wish would you like to be approached responsibly now?
- What can your first steps towards fulfillment look like?
Yes, there is a lot to do - that is life and yes, that is the path we walk and constantly experience ourselves in the process of fulfillment and creation. And, it's great.
Make your life colorful and wonderful and unique and free and happy and, and, and...
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