Hello dear soulmate,
To start with, this article is not written to get you down or show you how flawed you are.
Having reasons, or maybe we call them “excuses” to use as we navigate life, each of us does. Very often our “excuses” or reasons why we cannot fulfill our dream now are totally logical and plausible. They actually always make sense. That's what makes the whole thing so tricky and at the same time keeps us in a state that we actually wanted to overcome or change. Because deep down we feel that more is possible. That there must be more to us in this life than what we have now. And hey presto there is an excuse/reason:
- The feeling of being ungrateful - the excuse behind it: Why change something, I'm actually fine!
And here we are at the totally logical one. Maybe we have a nice house, we're married, we have a job that makes good money. Everything is saddled and looks perfect on the outside. Maybe you are living the life many would like, what many consider their dream and you already have it.
Of course, it seems totally crazy – even for oneself – if one were to say: But I would like to travel through India with a backpack completely freely and alone. Or I want to live in a tiny house by the sea. Or, or, or.
On a soul level we don't want to be ungrateful and quite unconsciously the fear arises that if we are ungrateful then the good things we have taken will become. We could lose it. Karma might strike. Gladly also paired with the second excuses
- What if it goes wrong?
Quite clearly and quite logically: that would be totally stupid. We would give up our house, maybe even get divorced, quit our good job and then there would be nothing with India or the tiny house. Or we find that our ideas about it do not correspond at all to reality and everything is terrible.
With both Greens/Excuses, the big topic is “Cloud 4”. That's where we set up. We feel inside that there is a cloud 7. Something that enriches us even more internally, that makes us freer, makes us livelier, gets us out of the daily routine, maybe even finally gives our life a deeper meaning.
It is quite natural that we are afraid of falling to cloud 1. But I'll let you in on a secret: 1) Once you've been to cloud 7, you'll find yourself wondering why you stayed on cloud 4 for so long instead of reaching for your soul stars.
2.) Once you've been on cloud 7, it doesn't really matter if you slip to cloud 1-6. Why? Because you've been to the top before. And once you've been at the top, you can do it again.
That's where we come to one of the main reasons why so many, or even all of us, don't start the journey to cloud 9.
- I can not do this
Actually, I would like to be a painter and make a living from selling my paintings. But I can not. Actually, I would like to write a book, but I can't. I want to be a healer but I can't. With the "I can't" comes reason no.
- I am not good enough
We're happy to vacillate between these two. I can't, I'm not good enough. These two are then joined by point no.
- Everyone else is so much better than you.
Can paint, sing, write, teach, travel, live, handle money better, be successful. Everyone is somehow better and only we can't. As you can see, we are very good at manipulating ourselves and keeping ourselves small.
There is no need for a family, partner, friends, teachers or anyone else who feels like we are being wrecked. Most of us are already masters in this field. I don't exclude myself. In the development of my company "basic trust" I was allowed to deal with each of these individual reasons again and again and gradually master them. That's why I'm writing about it today.
Because I know Cloud 9. Because I walked the path and if I can do it, then each and every one of you can do it. And I can only say with all my heart: the journey is worth it. Life becomes so much easier, better, freer, more peaceful, more mindful and above all more fulfilling.
If we feel like we can't do it, we're not good enough and the others are already so much better, then learn. Learn what you need to make your dream come true.
If you want to sail, then learn to sail. If you want to paint, then learn to paint. Or sing, or channel, or write, or build a house, or cook, or, or, or. whatever your dream is We have all learned and the great secret: learning never stops.
We're still learning, we're always learning to be better than we were before. This is the way of enlightenment. He's not finished. There is still something waiting for us that we do not yet know, cannot yet do or where we can be even better.
Learning is great. i love learning Free, self-determined and self-chosen. Because I want to jump from cloud 7 to cloud 7 and that's why I learn something new every single day and it's incredibly satisfying and makes life so incredibly full and fulfilling.
So not being able to do something may be your starting point, but it's not a reason not to start. There are multitudes of souls out there who can teach you exactly what you want to be able to do or show you how to achieve what you want to achieve.
And then the next reason/excuse quickly comes to the fore:
- I have no or not enough money
Money is always a great reason not to do something and stand still or even get stuck. Another one that is so incredibly logical and plausible. If the account is empty, the account is empty. It's that simple. And yes, then you don't have the money to do an expensive course or an expensive trip or anything. And then we give up before we even start.
Can you imagine what's coming now? The big BUT. But if your desire burns very strongly within you, then at some point money will no longer be what enslaves you and prevents you from living a fulfilling, happy life and making your dreams come true. When the fire is burning in you, there is always a way.
And we don't have to book the 10,000 Euro Super Master VIP coaching right away, no matter how tempting it sounds. We go step by step. You can compare it to mathematics. We don't start with integral calculus at school either. We learn that 1 + 1 = 2. First we learn to count from 1-10. We get to know the numbers. We have been working our way towards integral calculus for years.
Well, does that scare you off “for years”? That scares a lot of people. We want to be millionaires today. Live in Costa Rica today. Drive the luxury yacht today. Live in our fancy tiny house today. We often forget that the people who have what we want and who are our role models started many years ago from the point where you are now. They're just a few years ahead. Not more.
A house is always built from the foundation. This is important. Because then your dream has substance, stands on solid ground and will not be blown over by the slightest storm.
Building a successful business or self-employment takes years of continuous learning, expanding, failing, rethinking, rethinking, learning, moving on. Step by step. So is a fulfilling relationship, your calling, as a writer, painter, healer, etc.
Therefore, it might be advisable today to take the first step in the direction you want, to keep at it, to believe in yourself, to learn.
If you don't have any money at the moment, then you look for offers that are free or very cheap. Free or inexpensive no longer means “bad” or “not worth anything”. On the contrary, there are an incredible number of souls out there - I count myself among them - who share their knowledge with you with open hearts and open hands. Much is free and some at an affordable price.
Always start where you are standing and then go up the individual steps. Very relaxed and collect a lot of soul treasures on the way.
And that's where the next excuse comes in.
- I have no time
Yes, we all know that. We work, we all have the household, shopping, children, partner, voluntary work, friends, hobbies, animals, etc.
Time is precious and precisely because it is so precious and runs out so quickly, it is important that we stop from time to time to take a look at our hamster wheel, in which we so often run around in a hectic manner.
What are we actually doing there? So many of us find ourselves caught in a loop of the same days in real life. We work our way from weekend to weekend, which isn't particularly relaxed either. We say "sometime". Someday I will write my book, do sports, travel, be rich, paint a picture. Someday. But first I have to work through the daily list of a thousand things. Because after all, we also have a point
- My partner, my children, my family
We can't because we don't have time and because we have to take care of our partner, our children, our mother, our father and anyone else. We have to save the world first and then we come to ourselves.
I say yes, reasons and excuses are super tricky. Of course we have to take care of our children. No question. And earn money and run the household if we don't want to become impoverished and go to waste. Where should there be room in all the hustle and bustle to make our dreams come true?
What a terrible dilemma in which we often function excellently for a very long time. Like a little reliable machine. However, this makes our cask of dissatisfaction feel steady until it's top jug full. Then nothing works. Then we get the burnout, the breakdown, the depression, start hating our partner, pressuring our kids, blaming our parents for everything.
Our own hamster wheel has broken us. That's very sad. But - thank God - not a state in which we have to remain.
I know it sounds difficult and it takes practice and again time, but we can break the hamster wheel. There are many, many methods and tools to do this. But the first step, in my opinion, is always:
FROM NOW ON YOU TAKE YOURSELF THE MOST IMPORTANT IN YOUR LIFE.
Finished. Your life - you are the center. And no, that's not selfish, inconsiderate or otherwise bad. Even if your partner, adult children, parents, friends or anyone else might want to tell you that. Your life - your lifetime.
It's not about going overboard with our responsibilities, such as towards our little children. It's about starting to create a healthy balance between our needs - and that includes your wishes and dreams, how you want to experience your life - and our previous creation, i.e. everything we have built up to now - this also includes our children.
If we don't do that, the "blame game" often sets in very quickly. Inside we have the feeling that our children, our partner or even our parents are to blame for the fact that we cannot lead a fulfilling life, that we cannot make our dreams come true.
And at some point we'll knock everyone involved in the face. But no one wants to take the blame for that. Imagine it the other way around: you don't want your mother to blame you for staying with your father because of you, for example, otherwise she would have divorced you immediately. And her whole life is messed up now because of you. How awful is that. We don't want to take that blame. And your children, your partner doesn't want to bear this blame either.
If our wish/dream is really burning within us, then it is our responsibility to make space for it in balance with our other commitments. And yes, sometimes we are allowed to let go of some things or invest less time in them so that we can move forward on our desired path.
You set the priorities for your life yourself. You divide your time. And honestly, not every parents' evening, every family celebration, party, every idea that someone else has for your time, you have to participate. You decide what is important. Dare to be honest with yourself and then you create space for the wonderful fulfillment of your lifetime.
- I had a bad childhood
Yes, many pasts were hard. Many of us endured tough times as children and were far from having the support and advocacy a child needs to feel loved and worthwhile.
But if we get stuck in this loop, then decades later we hand over the power of our lives to our parents. They still determine the image of ourselves. Your fulfillment is then stuck in your childhood.
It's not about negating what was. It's about stopping giving others power over ourselves. You are an adult now - so you decide about your life, not your parents, your partner or anyone else. You. That's what it means to be an adult, before that we're just playing adult. And it's up to us to seize that power. It empowers us to fulfill our lifetime in a way that makes us feel good in our own lives.
I know that is easier to read than to implement later. But if we don't even start, then we'll remain trapped in the old structures forever and waste our lifetime.
- Your very own excuse
Each of us still has our own individual reasons or excuses why our wishes cannot be implemented now and which prevent us from getting started and creating a fulfilling life. Often these individual excuses are shaped by our beliefs about ourselves shaped by our childhood or by society.
You may then feel too fat, too thin, too stupid, too strange, too intelligent, too poor, too rich, too anything else and that's why your wishes can't come true yet.
First you have to change the situation like too fat, too thin, too poor, too I don't know what, and then, yes, then, you can finally take off.
Tricky Alert! We have locked ourselves in a golden cage that prevents us from flying to cloud 9. You can read more about the Golden Cage here:
Only you can figure out your own individual excuses and master them.
I wish you from the bottom of my heart that your wishes come true as you would like to experience them. That you learn to love cloud 7 and that you seize your precious lifetime with a full heart.
your jennifer
