Self-Awareness - 10 simple tips to settle in and stay great
Surely we are taught in our childhood to be careful around a hot stove, crossing a street, splashing in a lake. We should watch out for anything that could harm us physically or even kill us.
But what about "damage" in the emotional and psychological area? Were we taught to pay attention? As the mother of an Asperger's son, I can sing a song about how "the system" tries to classify children as "conforming to the system". As long as it doesn't take physical damage, you have to adapt. And if you have parents who don't question the system, then you, me and everyone else are just raised in that direction.
It doesn't matter whether the person you like or dislike, you have to give them the "good" hand in greeting. Regardless of whether a teacher is fair or unfair, he "deserves" respect and is to be behaved. It's not important whether you like Aunt Erna and Uncle Wilhelm, if you're invited you go, whether you feel good about it or not is irrelevant. I think when you start thinking about it, you'll come up with hundreds of examples yourself from your past where you had to do things even though you felt it wasn't good for you now.
So the end of the story, we're starting to ignore our self-awareness, overplay it, maybe talk it up. As a result, we constantly go beyond our emotional limits and may not realize it until the great depression and breakdown hits.
The benchmark for our self-awareness is our intuition. She can guide us safely through the flow of our lives. And now everyone who learned to work with their intuition as a child or young person can get in touch: maybe from their parents, at school, in vocational training... Hardly anyone will get in touch now.
That is one of the major tasks of soul coaches and spiritually working people: showing people to pay attention to their intuition again. On the so-called gut feeling (but intuition is not just a gut feeling - by the way - you can find out more about it in the small online course Intuition).
Learning to differentiate between ego fear and healthy self-awareness that can guide you safely through your life. As a child, we weren't usually allowed to decide whether something was good for us or not.
But now as an adult you get to decide. You are allowed to listen to your self-awareness and you are allowed to act on it.
Self-awareness means, among other things, that it is in your hands that you are well. That it is up to you whether you turn your dreams into goals and that you achieve these goals. You take care of yourself and your well-being. You pay attention to how you apply, grasp and live out the cosmic laws, the soul laws, the soul commandments etc. in your life. Only you can decide whether something feels good and right for you or rather bad and wrong. No one else can feel that for you.
The others make decisions for you from their perspective and their field of perception. It is YOUR decisions in which your fears, insecurities, worries, but also courage and energy resonate. But you are you. Only you can explore where your limits of what is possible lie, how far you are willing to go beyond your limits, how far you are willing to grow and become bigger.
Self-awareness means more and more to stop being a puppet of the system (by that I mean: conforming to the directives of parents, teachers, society, people you're fellowshipping with, etc.). You cut loose the threads with which others - whether consciously or unconsciously - try to steer you and keep you on the path they have set.
At some point the time has come to step out. The time has come to actively take your own path in life, to actively implement the chosen life plan in your very own way. Self-awareness will lead you to take better care of yourself and your physical, emotional, and mental health. The responsibility for your well-being is entirely in your hands. The decisions about the steps of your life are entirely in your hands.
Start to get to know your own limits (does that sound familiar? It can hardly be repeated often enough) or maybe it would be better formulated - since we want to develop and expand the limits -: start to know your powers to learn.
Be careful not to go beyond your strength reservoir. Don't overexert yourself so that you become drained, exhausted and, in the worst case, sick. Take good care of your energy balance. what gives you strength nourishes you Fills you up and lets you shine? What's making you uncomfortable? Drains you and leaves you drained and depleted?
With self-awareness you can find out all the answers to the above questions. If you find yourself somewhere in a system that is destroying you, making you ill, draining you (job, partnership, family, friendships, hobbies), then ask yourself: Why are you doing this to yourself? Why are you invalidating yourself? What do you get out of weakening yourself? Do you put yourself in such situations?
Self-awareness is the field of development that will lead and keep us more and more on the true path of the soul if we pay attention to our intuition and our balance of power. If we follow our “vocation”, then we are fine. That doesn't mean that the path isn't sometimes strenuous, that you have to overcome fears, that everything is easy. But it does mean that you are fine on a deep inner, spiritual level.
Self-awareness is a true blessing and I invite you to take this field of development more consciously and integrate it into your life. As always, self-awareness has a lot to do with introspection. How do we feel, how do we think, how do we speak and how do we act, how do we deal with and react to the feelings that our thoughts, words and actions bring to us.
It is up to you how consciously you think, speak, act and how consciously you feel. Whether your soul takes control of the emotions, or the ego, or whether the emotions take control of you and your actions. The higher we progress on the soul development spiral, the more the soul has all of these aspects in its conscious, higher vibrating hand. If so, the more peace will come into life. The less emotional outbursts will overwhelm us and make us act thoughtlessly. The more we can carry out our soul tasks self-awarely, calmly and calmly.
The journey is worth it. The effort and work is worth it. Maybe one or the other of the 10 tips will become uncomfortable for your ego. But only if we truly face ourselves and our shadow issues can we get off the big hamster wheel and finally dive into the flow of soul purpose and vocation.
#1 tip
If it feels wrong, then let it be
As I described at the beginning, how often as children did we have to do things, to connect with people, even though we felt that it didn't feel good. So often we have gone beyond our energetic powers. Tip #1 invites you, now that you are free to make decisions about your life, to empathize and simply stop doing what feels wrong.
Yes I know. As always, this is easier written and said than it proves to be in practice. A helpful question here would be: Why are you doing it even though it's not good for you? Even though it feels wrong? We then often encounter a lack of self-love or self-esteem. The fear of hurting or offending others can also play a role here.
But let's be honest: you hurt yourself the most when you do things that feel wrong to you. Stay with yourself and go more and more the way that feels right and coherent for you, self-aware of yourself and your strengths.
#2 tip
Learn to trust your intuition
Maybe it would be important first of all to get in touch with your intuition - the voice of your soul (you can find another blog article about this: Intuition - the voice of your soul) and to start communicating with this voice (so yes, to start internally with to communicate to yourself).
Intuition guides you on the way to fulfilling your wishes, life dreams, plans, etc. Intuition brings miracles back into our lives and finds solutions that we hadn't even thought of. Seen rationally, intuition is often very illogical, unstructured, sometimes even chaotic and always very surprising. But I tell you: intuition also makes your life exciting, interesting, thrilling and, above all, it is always for you. She is always working for you: unconditionally loving.
#3 tip
Think well of yourself
I invite you to observe your thoughts and see what you think about yourself over the course of a day: too fat? too ugly? too wrinkled? Too poor? Too weak? Too stupid? Too emotional? Too clumsy?etc. I could go on and on with the list.
We often carry in our thoughts sayings from people who once said something negative about us and hey presto they go round in circles and we think badly about ourselves without even consciously noticing it. But thoughts have creative power, they shape our decisions: "I can't be a module, I'm too fat or too ugly", "I can't do the course, I'm too poor or I don't have any money", "I can't study , I'm not smart enough", "I can't take this job, I'm not good enough", etc.
Do you already notice while reading how the negativity in these sentences makes room and takes up space. But that's how we often think about ourselves several times a day if we don't start consciously taking countermeasures and start thinking well about ourselves. Observe your thoughts and if something negative comes over you, then hold onto it and turn it to the good - become the conscious creator of your thoughts: "I want to do the course - the money isn't there yet - Intuition guides me that I do this course can do", "I would like to be a model the way I am", "Maybe I can't do everything I need for this job yet, but I can learn, improve myself and I really want to do this job" . can you tell the difference If you like, you can start changing your thoughts immediately
#4 tip
Speak respectfully about yourself
Thoughts are of course the basis of what we speak. If we think badly about ourselves, then we also speak badly about ourselves. Let's think well, we speak well (without having to become "foamheads") - if others speak negatively, we don't have to join in this vale of tears. When the women complain again how much they weigh and how much they still have to lose - you can start to feel good about yourself.
You are exactly right now - yes, you can always change - for example if you want to be slimmer - but here too we can turn our thoughts and what we say positively, mindfully towards ourselves. The invitation here is not to go into the vale of tears of collective self-pity, but to know what you would like to have differently and also to know that you can change it if you really want it.
#5 tip
Be mindful of yourself
As I have already described above, how often have we gone beyond our energetic power limits. Did things and met people that weren't good for us. We got involved in things that had a negative impact on us. I invite you: stop doing it: act mindfully towards yourself in the future.
A NO is sometimes difficult to pronounce, I know that very well, but important to stay with you. We don't have to go to our best friend's party if it's not good for us. We don't have to visit relatives if they try to finish us off there and you feel really bad afterwards. You don't have to do anything. But you can.
You can go to the party for the love of your best friend, or for the love of your kin for your partner—but you can also say no if it makes you feel better. Let go of the "must" and find your "I can" - "I can decide for myself" and that again and again.
#6 tip
Bring into your life what feels good
This tip goes well with the #1 tip: we let what feels wrong and bring the things and people into our lives that feel good. Actually quite natural, right? But the reality is so often different. Instead of comfortably reading a nice book, we feel obliged to go to the party of people we hardly know or who we know are not good for us.
This tip is really an invitation to tune in and find what feels good about you. And not because others say it's good or spiritual or makes you healthy or, or. But because you feel that it is good for you. It starts with the food. What have I listened to: Potatoes are unhealthy, nightshades are unhealthy, only if you chew 20 times is it healthy, drinking tea is healthy….
It was quite a bit of work to question all the opinions and guidelines from the outside and to find out for myself whether it feels good or not (and believe me, I'm still at it - every day there is something new to discover and feel into). ). But that's part of self-awareness: feel if it feels good - then let it into your life.
#7 tip
Let go of what makes you small
Sometimes people cannot help themselves if they are not mindful of themselves. Then they "throw out" things that make us small. Parents and relatives can usually do this very well, but so can friends, partners, teachers, superiors and colleagues. (By the way: of course we are also good at it ourselves - if we have not yet arrived at mindfulness) - it starts with the sentence: "You are like your mother/father" (rarely that this sentence is meant positively) . "Even as a child you were a little clumsy little elephant, so clumsy, so stupid" etc.
These sentences hit us, regardless of whether we are children or adults. The invitation of this tip, however, is to stop taking these sayings from others to heart - that doesn't mean that you should no longer keep in touch with relatives, friends, etc. (here too you are free to make your own decision) - but rather The invitation is first of all to stop putting on other people's shoes - whoever speaks badly of others is actually speaking badly of himself in a careless way.
When you have arrived at yourself, in your mindfulness and appreciation, then you stop speaking badly of others. A very positive side effect. So: let go of the things and sayings that make you small. Don't accept her anymore. That doesn't mean, of course, that we can't always continue to know ourselves.
Sometimes our parents, partner, colleagues and friends are right when we've knocked over our coffee cup for the 100th time - well, then we might be clumsy. As always, the invitation is to feel into it without slipping straight into the drama and to recognize ourselves. If others just want to play their games and manipulations with us, then let it go.
Don't put the shoe on... but if there's a grain of truth in it, and you'll feel it - then you can work on it, if you like, or not. Feel free to decide when you want to go into self-development and when not.
#8 tip
Recognize and respect your limits
Too often we go beyond our limits. As I already described in the opening text, it is important to find out where our potential strength lies and what we can do without exhausting ourselves. Too often we think we have to constantly do something in order to be someone.
Creating something so that we can also allow ourselves to rest. We live in a society that lives by the motto "time for money", where you are who you are if you can do something properly. It's not about just being. But in self-awareness we are invited to just be and feel more and more of who we are and who we want to be.
Self-awareness invites us to arrive at ourselves, to perceive ourselves and then to act on our needs. This includes clear "yes" and also "no's" - depending on where our energetic limits are. And that keeps changing. Sometimes we are strong and have an incredible amount of power, can do a lot, try a lot of new things, and sometimes we are tired, need rest, breaks, distance from people - self-awareness therefore invites us to perceive ourselves better and better in order to feel where we are now and what we can do now.
#9 tip
Allow yourself to be good to yourself
"You may" spoil yourself. "You may" be good to yourself. "You may" look at your needs and ensure that you experience fulfillment. Too often we are taught to give others more space in our lives than to stay with us and look. We must see to it that our siblings prosper.
We should honor father and mother. We have to do tasks that are assigned to us by others (regardless of whether it is at home, at school, later during studies or training, in our relationships). So often we twist ourselves to please others and lose ourselves in the process.
So many people who no longer even know what is actually good for them. What they need to make them feel good. They know what everyone else needs, but they don't know about themselves. The invitation here is to put you first from now on (without getting reckless or walking over dead bodies). But stay with you and allow yourself to spoil yourself.
#10 tip
And here we come to the #10 tip:
MINDFULNESS ALWAYS STARTS WITH YOURSELF
Believe me, I know the common game that women play particularly well: they sacrifice themselves for everything and everyone: the children are fine, the wife is fine, the dogs and cats, the parents, the grandparents, the voluntary work etc. You bend over backwards for everyone and then there is the secret hope: a.) everyone has to see that, b) I am lovable and c) now everyone will surely take good care of me, or?
Unfortunately, the answer is often: "No!" - we are waiting for the beautiful prince, who comes riding along and relieves us of all burdens and troubles, because we were so diligent and self-sacrificing. But it is not like that. In the end you stand there, nobody cares about us and we are frustrated.
That's why the #10 tip is so immensely important: Self-awareness always starts with yourself. You can take care of yourself. Don't wait for someone else to come up with the idea. Your well-being is in your hands. You decide whether you think well about yourself, speak well and act mindfully towards yourself. No more waiting for praise to come from the outside. Don't wait for anyone to bring you chocolates or flowers - you want them for your well-being, then spoil yourself.
The more mindful we become of ourselves, the more freedom we give ourselves and yes, we give others too. We arrive at ourselves, in our strength, in our potential. We feel more and more, we know what is good for us, what we need to feel good.
And don't forget: be loving towards yourself - like all soul development fields, self-awareness is a field in which we can grow, recognize ourselves there, experience and love ourselves.
I wish you a wonderful mindful relationship with yourself. Love, your Jennifer
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