When do we harm someone else?
The great motto in the magical-spiritual creation process is: "Do what you want and don't harm anyone!".
And since I've been messaged so many times now asking for an answer "when to harm someone" - I think it's time to write this blog article about it. As a small introduction and to give you something to hand for your own wonderful creation processes.
So, let's see together when we harm someone.
#1 lies
Yes, all lies. There is no exception here. No, not even "well intentioned" lies. Lying ALWAYS builds up negative/destructive energy and with it we not only harm others, but above all and primarily ourselves. We dim our light with it, so to speak, and create a heavy and dark atmosphere. If you're already clairvoyant, then you certainly understand what I mean.
However, this does not mean that I should mercilessly and unasked smack my truth into someone and everything and thus possibly hurt them. But there are three simple rules for this aspect.
Rule 1 : Make up your mind to always stick to the truth from now on
Rule 2 : Only ask an opinion if you're willing to hear the other person's truth, even if it's not what you're hoping to hear. A very profane example: "Do you think this dress suits me?" - Of course we hope that something nice will come of it.
But the fact is, tastes differ and in the end it is always an invitation to put yourself in your creative power so that you can decide for yourself whether it suits you or not. That you can decide for yourself whether you like it or not. This makes us free and independent and the others too.
We also give permission for the other person to freely answer our question. He doesn't have to lie to avoid hurting us with his truth. This is important. We no longer create a field of lying for ourselves or "force" anyone else to lie for us just to make us feel better.
Rule 3 : If someone else asks you for your opinion, tell them right away that you will not lie and that you will only answer if they are willing to hear your answer, whatever it may be. That way, the other person can still decide a) not to ask you in the first place and b) is forewarned that what you say may not necessarily please him/her.
In this way we create a field of truthfulness and authenticity. And our word, our opinion is then valuable, precisely because it is truthful and honest and the other person can rely on not being lied to by us. Just as we want to be sure that the other person isn't lying to us. Actually quite simple, but also always a learning process.
#2 Sneakyness and Calculation
Sometimes we are unaware that we are being sneaky and calculating in our creative process and would certainly scorn our acting in this way. This often happens when we are very caught up in our own emotions and thoughts and cannot think outside the box to see that our behavior is harming others.
To make it clearer, here is a real-life example that I kept coming across on social media. Woman no longer loves her husband and declares, not to the husband but in social groups, that she will stay with him for the next three years until the children have moved out. After that they would separate.
The best way to understand “sneaky and calculating” is to turn the tables. How would you feel if your partner broke up with you and told you that he only stayed with you for the last three years because of the children. Three precious years of your lifetime.
Three years of living under the delusion that you are in a relationship, maybe even a loving relationship. But it wasn't true. The other simply "just" calculated when the best time would come for him to approach without giving you a chance to freely decide whether you want it or not. That's sneaky. I don't want to be treated like that by my partner. You?
We take away from the other - from my example "three years" of his precious life time. We deprive him of the chance to find love with someone else because he has committed himself to us in a spirit of trust. We rob ourselves of the opportunity to have a valuable relationship.
We harm others and ourselves.
Incidentally, “calculating action” also includes the aspect of cheating. We know that we get more than we give or than the other deserves. We benefit at someone else's expense. This also falls into the category of "harm someone".
But we know, Cosmic Law, what we give out is what we will get. In other words: if we harm someone else, in the end we always harm ourselves. That is the great art of the magical creation process. "I do what I want and do no harm"
#3 All actions born out of negative/destructive feelings
This does not mean that we must not have negative or destructive feelings. No, no, don't get me wrong here. We are human and sometimes we have negative feelings. This is perfectly normal. But the trick is not to give these feelings the space to determine our creative process. If we follow and act on the basis of negative/destructive feelings, we ALWAYS do harm without exception. This refers to feelings such as hate, envy, resentment, revenge, anger, etc.
Again, it is perfectly normal on our journey as humans through this life that we also have these feelings. Sometimes we are angry, sometimes we are jealous. And do you know why these feelings are so great? Because they show us where our next step in consciousness is. We wouldn't be jealous if there wasn't something we'd like too.
Then we can embark on a research trip to find out exactly what it is, in order to give direction to "do what you want". Another example. Maybe you're jealous because someone else has a lot of money or success in their job or is so slim or whatever. Then you take your feeling and look at it closely.
What would you like to have about each other's success? Do you just want to be successful too? Do you want to succeed in what the other is doing? Do you want to be like the other? That's great. The envy can then change into "being inspired" and as "goal setting" for your creative process.
This is how we turn negative feelings into something constructive.
A negative reaction would be, for example, we're jealous of someone else's success, so we start badmouthing him/her whenever we can. We start to look for mistakes in the other person and constantly rub it in his/her face. We leave negative ratings and comments etc.
The negative feeling of envy has taken control of our actions and we begin to do harm. The other and ourselves. Stop it. Do not do it. Even if you've done it until now, let it rest. Focus on yourself, on your success, take the best role models and then go your own way.
With negative feelings we are far too often, far too much with the other. Wasting valuable time pursuing others instead of using the time to build something constructive in our own lives. We never change the others, only ourselves.
Then we can be an inspiration and then maybe they change others because they take us as a role model. But you are with yourself all the time, your light, your magical creation process. Quite simply and I tell you, life is just so much nicer with constructive feelings than with destructive ones.
#4 Abuse of power and crossing borders
By the way, it is pretty much the same with border crossings and abuse of power of any kind. Instead of constructively shaping and building our own kingdom (life), we cross borders and interfere in the rule of another kingdom.
Perhaps with the "bright" thought we would know better what is best for the other person or simply and brutally: for satisfying one's own needs. Both are catastrophic for the entire system. Oh yes, and vice versa too.
It is very important in our magical creation process to pay attention to being the ruler of our realm/life. to take our throne. In this way we can make sure that no one crosses our limits and harms us.
That nobody puts their power over ours and abuses us in any way. VERY IMPORTANT.
We don't need to be "lovely and nice". As queen/king, it is up to us to be able to say a very clear "No!" and to stand behind it energetically. Nobody has the right to exploit us, to use us, to violate our borders, to harm us and it is up to us to take care of that.
Here we come to the next important point
#5 Offender Behavior
Perpetrator behavior always hurts. There is no "good" offender. Now, of course, it is a question of when we become the perpetrator. The moment you act against your better knowledge. The moment you know what you're doing here isn't right. We feel it, we know it. When we pressure, when we hurt, when we blackmail, when we play opera games and manipulation games. When we make others dependent and exploit relationships of dependency. If we think that "the goal justifies the means" - no, because "the path is the goal" and it always depends on how we walk this path, with what intention and in what way we create and shape our reality.
And you know, we've all been perpetrators in one form or another. But even if we are no longer perpetrators, it is important to recognize perpetrator behavior because if we allow "perpetrator games" into our lives, even if they come from the other side, then we are harming ourselves with it.
We can allow ourselves to set a limit for perpetrator games. This also includes, for example, “playing with a bad conscience” that others want to force on us. How can you not help your elderly father who may have been abusing and mistreating you for years now when he is so ill?
Attention, especially when it comes to the perpetrator aspect, there is a great danger that we will fall into old “child roles” and rape ourselves through our behavior. Yes, that sounds harsh. Looking honestly at our own reality, at our own being, isn't always peppered with pink cotton wool.
So often the perfidious culprit games still work later, so often we still fall for them. Again, because we can't say "no", because we want to be "nice and nice", because we want to be "so spiritual and full of light".
Don't harm yourself anymore. Stop falling for other people's bullying. Someone who really loves you doesn't go beyond your limits. Very easily. Don't abuse you, don't take advantage of you. Don't blackmail you, don't poach around in your kingdom, don't make you small or down. In such places and with such people we are in the wrong place for love.
Okay, take a deep breath. When we get to the abuser issues, you can almost noticeably feel the energy getting heavy and dark. Incidentally, if you can feel well, this is also a good signal for you to distance yourself and protect yourself. Don't forget: "Harm nobody" also implies that you are careful not to harm yourself with what you create, with what you do.
Last point and then perhaps the freakiest:
#6 Black Magic
You really don't need to write much more about it, do you? Black magic is - again - ALWAYS negative and always ultimately aimed at harming someone. So, if you don't want to get the boomerang effect: stay away from it!
This includes blood contracts, soul contracts, love spells, and so on.
As a "light warrior", connected to our magical potential, we work to bring light into our own shadows. We start doing what we want, doing less and less harm to anyone. Not ourselves, but neither does anyone else. No other humans, no animals, not Gaia, not of nature, not of the soul union.
Ultimately, you could also call this true enlightenment, initiation, or true mastery. It's a way. We learn. We recognize. We make mistakes. We stumble. We gather confidence. We recognize again. we walk Until our being is full of light. Yeah, you don't have to be quite so spiritual. You don't have to have the highest spiritual goal as your goal in life. But every step that you take on the bright side, every step that does not harm but brings light into your life and thus into the world is a blessing.
May your creation be great.
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